I thought I would try to straighten out in my own head what it is that I'm looking for in my next romantic companion. Insofar as I have a tendency to dream of a girl that is so virtually perfect that she could only be found in a distant land far beyond the river we call reality... I thought I would make an effort to prioritize as well as I can what is essential to me and what is merely preferrable...
Essential
Niceness/Kindness ~ Not just toward me. I will be proud to claim her partly because she impresses everyone with the beauty in her heart.
Intellectually Provocative ~ One couple I know brags about the way they will cook dinner together and get so engrossed in a conversation that they forget to eat the dinner they're preparing. I want that too.
Adoration ~ She loves pretty much every thing about me... my face, my kisses, the way I talk... the way my nose moves while I'm talking... my sense of humor... my imagination... the way I sing... she likes for me to read to her... she hungrily awaits the next product of my creativity.
Creativity ~ I want to love her and encourage her for what she creates... Whether it's photography or poetry or painting or prose or even something that doesn't begin with "P" so long as it hasn't been done before and she loves doing it.
Reading ~ I'm not looking for someone who wishes she had time to read. She finds the time.
Movies ~ She gets lost in the movie she's watching... and it's easy to persuade her to watch one almost every day (and she still has time to read)(this is my fantasy... don't opress me).
Tolerance ~ She is not a racist or bigot... and even though she's very likely a Liberal... she tries to understand opposing points of view without judging anyone to the point that she begins foaming at the mouth.
Affection ~ She loves to hug me... to feel my face against hers... and she doesn't necessarily care if we happen to be in public at such times.
Active ~ I'm not into skiing or fog~boarding or sky~cycling personally... I'm not talking about that... I just mean it's relatively easy to convince her to go for a walk or a hike. Maybe she likes tennis and ping~pong and bowling and darts and jogging and dancing and karaoke and racquetball and volleyball... or at least a few of these.
Self Confident ~ She's not worried that I might cheat on her because she knows I'd be a fool to take her for granted. And she knows I'm not a fool. And she can say thank you when someone compliments her instead of manufacturing tedious explanations for why and how the compliment is not valid.
Voice ~ Soft and sweet and delicious.
Sense of Humor ~ She makes me laugh and I make her laugh.
Preferrable
Perfume ~ she wears enough so that I notice it... I'm highly susceptible to sweet fragrances.
Jewelry ~ I think some jewelry looks really nice. And by God if I give her a necklace or a ring or a watch... it is sacred to her and she wears it sometimes. It does not reside perpetually within the confines of some silly storage device awaiting a perpetually elusive special occasion.
Makeup ~ Some girls wear it and some don't... I'm in favor of a little makeup (as opposed to tons).
Animals ~ I'm not looking for a girl who doesn't like animals...
Disney Movies ~ She loves them.
Kids ~ she wants them... pretty much as many as possible... even though she's also concerned about the population explosion on Planet Earth... so we might opt for moderation eventually.
Finally
I reserve the right to enjoy my own company and the company of my friends and to remain single until I find someone like this. So what if I don't quite deserve her! I'll worry about that when the time comes.
